Checking Out
We have so many tools to numb out that it is easy to avoid paying attention to how we feel.
My definition of numbing out would be that you are using something (alcohol, drugs, food, devices, work, shopping) as a way to escape from aspects of your life that feel hard or uncomfortable. I believe our culture actually encourages numbing out. Why would it not? There is a lot of money to be made, and it is an easier choice for most people. Watch the commercials during a sporting event - particularly football. Drinking alcohol and soda are glorified as the best ways to kick back with your friends and help you to feel connected. And while you are at it have some pizza, and chips, and wings, and then have a Reese’s, because eating like that is how you “enjoy” life.
These messages are everywhere and try to convince us that consuming these things will make our lives much better. They will not, and in fact, often the opposite is true. The real and true way to get more out of life is to feel connected to other human beings, or to something that feels important to us, and the messaging that “connection” can be found by consuming things outside of ourselves is misleading at best, and damaging at worst.
How do we each figure out the difference between actual enjoyment and numbing out? It will be different for everyone and possibly difficult to define. I know I am numbing out in some way when I feel disappointed in myself after it happens. That’s it - because that is how I know I was not being mindful. If you believe you are numbing out in some way, I say yours is the only vote that counts and you should pay attention.
What to do next? Think about creating a life you do not need to escape from. Let your body, mind, and heart speak to you. Don’t use activities and substances to keep them quiet. They are the most important tools you have (Are You Listening?) and provide valuable information.
